Just to be clear. I am in control.

"Going against the grain - embracing the unconventional."
I use to wait to be asked. Then I would be all giveing and pleasing.
Don't get me wrong, many were OK and some were very good.
None were all fulfiling.
A good example is, "just when I started to enjoy what he was doing to me, he would stop or change position."
Through out the sexual encounter, his timing sucked. At the conclusion, he would rear up, (almost beating his chest) and ask, "was that good for you?". Knowing what he needed to hear, I would reply, " Oh yes."

Casual sex and hooking up... not necessarily as destructive to women as we've been led to believe. Let me make the case that the hookup culture and casual sex in general has actually empowered women by freeing them up from the two standards socity views men and women who have a thirst for sexual encounters.

  • Female empowerment - I was surprised by how many of these couples embraced very powerful feminist principles, and how many of these husbands described the joy they felt at their wife's increased independence, confidence and assertiveness, that came from the wife's freedom to have sex with other men. Many of the men expressed that through their wife's open sexuality, the couple was actively and consciously rejecting social pressures to suppress female sexuality, assert monogamy and patriarchal power.
  • The term empowerment refers to measures designed to increase the degree of autonomy and self-determination in people and in communities in order to enable them to represent their interests in a responsible and self-determined way, acting on their own authority.

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